Nowadays it seems as though everyone has a Facebook, Twitter, Formspringme, and or a Tumblr. These sites are just a way to fill up the free time in our day to day life. As entertaining and time consuming these social networking sites may be detrimental to your “real” social life.
1. Don’t Answer Questions You Aren’t Comfortable With
This mostly relates to the Formspringme website, http://www.formspring.me/, where anyone can sign up for it so that their friends or random people can ask them questions. This can be totally anonymous so people seem to feel a bit risky when it comes to asking questions. What most people don’t quite get is that just because they are asked an inappropriate question such as how often they have sex, or how often they masturbate (yes people have asked these questions, cause you know we’re on a need-to-know basis)but you don’t need to answer this. Ever. You can simply delete the question and never answer it, but if you do answer it either jokingly or not you are putting that on your little internet identity forever. Since most anyone can find you on Formspringme this leaves possible future dating partners aware of things about you that you may not have wanted them to know. Here’s a hint if it isn’t a comfortable question/topic for you don’t feel the need to answer it.
2. Don’t Update Your Status Every 5 Minutes
No one cares what sandwich you ate at lunch, or how bored you are because no one is around. Think about this; if you are trying to date someone and they see that you update your status on Facebook or on Twitter every minute of every day they will see you have nothing to do, or that you are totally obsessed with sitting at your computer and they won’t want to go out to get to know you. Instead of locking yourself up in your room and letting everyone on your friend’s list see that you clearly have nothing better to do with your life shows them you have no interests. If you like to go outside, go outside but don’t tell everyone you are going outside, just do it.
3. Don’t Confess Things on Tumblr Only to Deny it on Formspringme
This seems fairly obvious, especially if you are linking your Tumblr account to your Formspring page but I know someone who has done this. If you are allowing people to see your Tumblr account and they can read anything you write there, assume that they are. And if these people are reading that, it also means that they are probably reading the answers you are giving on Formspringme. For example if you tell everyone on Formspringme you were really heartbroken about your ex breaking up with you, don’t make a post on Tumblr saying that you only dated that person to get close to one of their friends. By contradicting yourself it makes your friends, and a possible future boyfriend/girlfriend see that you are not a totally honest person. You can’t say one thing on one website and something totally different on another website. Since anyone can access these pages you need to just watch what you say on both, you cannot have multiple identities when you are linking everything back together.
4. Don’t Tell Everyone Where You Are Going
This relates to step 2 of not constantly updating your status or Twitter account, however you also need to ensure that you are not telling people exact locations and/or addresses of the places you are going to. You should not let everyone in the free world know exactly where you are, it is almost inviting people to find you, or to simply rob your house if you are not home and telling everyone that you aren’t there.
5. Beware of Pictures
Make sure that whatever pictures you have on Facebook are pictures you want everyone to see. These sites can be viewed by future employers or by future mates. If it is embarrassing, or detrimental to your future career or dating life try not to post it. That means that you should probably not put up pictures that show you are begging for attention such as no shirt pictures or with you wearing skimpy clothing in front of a mirror. These pictures show no class and are very tasteless. Show who you really are not who you are trying to be.
Just beware of what you post online, it can affect your future. If you are single make sure to show you are available but not desperate. Don’t be glued to technology everyday of your life or you will seem like a loner and no one will really want to date someone who is already in a relationship with their computer.
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